20 Difficulties in Life 1

Wednesday (190809)- 8pm

We discussed about being an ordinary one. Being ordinary doesn't mean to be passive and not to work hard to outshine others. The main point is what is the definition of being ordinary. In today's world, everyone's striving to be special. But, in fact, everyone becomes ordinary. Sometimes, being humble an ordinary one can learn a lot of things.

This topic helped me to relate to STACT Club. Instead of being the top 5 or leaders, we can sometimes choose to be an ordinary member. We can clearly understand how they feel, work, communicate, etc.. By doing so, we can eliminate the mistakes and notice members' feelings when we are leaders in future. It's just like why the majesty has the duty to stay outside for few days with his citizens.

Next, we discussed about discriminating those who have poor knowledge. We often find people looking down people who have lower knowledge than them. They don't have the knowledge doesn't mean they don't know forever, they just haven't learned it. They haven't reached the stage. While you are discriminating them, you should think that you are being discriminated by others as well. Nobody is perfect in this world. In contrast, you should feel shameful towards your attitude of looking down people instead of encouraging people to work harder.

There are 2 types of people in this world when facing discrimination: first, people who look down himself and act passive. This type of people will only cause others to look down on them more. They should always believe that not they don't know, they just haven't learned. What they need to do is LEARN. Next, people who will act aggressive and work even harder to prove himself he can. But, remember, if you are this type of people, please do not feel arrogant, and look down on others. You should thank those who look down on you. When people look down on you, they remind you that it's time for you to learn. So , in contrast, you should thank them.

Brother asked a question:" People always discuss on looking down others, how about looking down on myself?" Hmm.. This is what I do currently, especially in my 4th sem. I feel embarrassing to have time management. I looked down on myself when seeing others like Ben who can finish his homework in time with his self-discipline though he has poorer results than me.

I know more friends when I join STACT. Fernie reminds me not to take club as excuse for poor results. She cares her results very much but she still could finish her publicity work, cope with her studies(score very well), participate in running competition, join outings with her friends, etc..

Yes, Ms. Su said once before:"In college, we learn. We learn how to handle things. It's like a training stage for us when we work in the cruel society in future. When our boss asks us to finish all things in limited time, can you say no? You still need to carry on. So, let's just take it as challenge!"

This caused me to look down on myself. But, being humble or being passive depends on how we think. Looking down on myself should be motivation for me to do better and reminder for me that it's time for me to catch up them, but not to continue to act passively.

Finally, our last topic is being equal all the time. This is a fact that no one can treat everyone equal. Everyone has his own favorite person. Even Confucius did prefer one of his students most because he learnt what Confucius taught. But, is it that difficult? Nope. The ways may be different but our objective should be equal to everyone. For example, the government wants to be equal. Does that mean that everyone of us should be offered same opportunity no matter how we work? Absolutely not! If it really treats us like this, it is, in contrast, unfair and unequal to us. Rewards should be given to only those who work. How much effort you put, how much you get. Evevryone is different, so the ways used to treat everyone may be different but as long as the objective is equal, that's good enough to say it's EQUAL.